Emotionally focused therapy / EFT-A02-4
Signals under the Reaction — Session activity
Facilitate a structured practice of signals under the reaction with preparation, reflection, and an agreed closing.
30 minutes · Session guide · Mental health professionals
Fictional example: Alex sounds irritated but identifies uncertainty about being included.
Use within your training and assessment of readiness. Visible reactions may cover more vulnerable experiences.
0–5 min | Agree on purpose and fit
Explain the educational scope. Ask what would be useful, check readiness and access needs, and establish choices to observe, adapt, or pass. Use an ordinary example; do not solicit trauma narratives.
5–10 min | Orient with an example
Visible reactions may cover more vulnerable experiences. Fictional example: Alex sounds irritated but identifies uncertainty about being included. Ask what is observed and what remains uncertain.
10–20 min | Practice and compare
Separate an outward response from possible softer feelings and mark all guesses for the other person as unconfirmed. Offer quiet individual work, a supported conversation, or an observing role. Compare two possible responses without evaluating people as right or wrong.
20–25 min | Reflect on meaning
What feeling can you name for yourself without assigning one to your partner? Ask what fit, what did not fit, and how culture, power, disability access, or external conditions affect the options.
25–30 min | Integrate and close
Invite one optional next step or support request. Orient to the current setting, allow an unfinished question to remain unfinished, and agree how to revisit it. End early or adapt if activation increases.
Adaptations
For a group, use fiction and no compulsory round-robin disclosure. For remote use, allow off-camera reflection and private notes. For brief use, keep one example and one question while retaining opening and closing choices.
Prompts for this resource
- What outcome would make this practice useful?
- What feeling can you name for yourself without assigning one to your partner?
- What adaptation or follow-up is needed?
Conceptual background
What is EFT? — International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy
Background on the approach only. Original exercises and wording are by More Than Therapy with AI assistance; the source does not validate or endorse these materials.