Emotionally focused therapy / EFT-A03-2
Attachment Need Words — Practice worksheet
Translate an ordinary complaint into a feeling and a request for reassurance, accessibility, or clearer contact.
15 minutes · Worksheet · Adults; supported use as appropriate
Fictional example: Alex wants a brief message when plans change.
Use an ordinary or fictional example, with a clinician when appropriate. A need for connection can be stated without demanding a specific response.
1. Choose a workable example
Use the fictional example below or an ordinary situation of your choosing. Keep identifying details out of shared copies.
2. Try the practice
Translate an ordinary complaint into a feeling and a request for reassurance, accessibility, or clearer contact.
3. Compare possibilities
Generate at least two interpretations or options. Mark what you know, what you are guessing, and what remains outside your control.
4. Decide together
What request feels specific, voluntary, and answerable? Choose one small action, a support request, or no action. Review the fit with your clinician when relevant.
Prompts for this resource
- My chosen or fictional situation, and what I know about it:
- My response to the practice task above:
- What request feels specific, voluntary, and answerable?
- An optional next step, support, adaptation, or reason to stop:
Conceptual background
What is EFT? — International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy
Background on the approach only. Original exercises and wording are by More Than Therapy with AI assistance; the source does not validate or endorse these materials.