Emotionally focused therapy / EFT-A09-2
Responsiveness Menu — Practice worksheet
Each person chooses preferred responses to a minor disappointment and identifies responses that do not fit.
15 minutes · Worksheet · Adults; supported use as appropriate
Fictional example: Alex prefers a question before a hug, while Sam prefers quiet company.
Use an ordinary or fictional example, with a clinician when appropriate. Helpful responses are personal and should be checked.
1. Choose a workable example
Use the fictional example below or an ordinary situation of your choosing. Keep identifying details out of shared copies.
2. Try the practice
Each person chooses preferred responses to a minor disappointment and identifies responses that do not fit.
3. Compare possibilities
Generate at least two interpretations or options. Mark what you know, what you are guessing, and what remains outside your control.
4. Decide together
How will you ask what kind of response is wanted? Choose one small action, a support request, or no action. Review the fit with your clinician when relevant.
Prompts for this resource
- My chosen or fictional situation, and what I know about it:
- My response to the practice task above:
- How will you ask what kind of response is wanted?
- An optional next step, support, adaptation, or reason to stop:
Conceptual background
What is EFT? — International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy
Background on the approach only. Original exercises and wording are by More Than Therapy with AI assistance; the source does not validate or endorse these materials.