Emotionally focused therapy / EFT-A10-2
Engagement without Performance — Practice worksheet
Identify accessible signs of engagement such as written reflection, a nod, or a scheduled return.
15 minutes · Worksheet · Adults; supported use as appropriate
Fictional example: Sam listens better while looking at a page rather than directly at Alex.
Use an ordinary or fictional example, with a clinician when appropriate. Connection need not require eye contact, touch, or a polished emotional display.
1. Choose a workable example
Use the fictional example below or an ordinary situation of your choosing. Keep identifying details out of shared copies.
2. Try the practice
Identify accessible signs of engagement such as written reflection, a nod, or a scheduled return.
3. Compare possibilities
Generate at least two interpretations or options. Mark what you know, what you are guessing, and what remains outside your control.
4. Decide together
What does engagement look like for each of you? Choose one small action, a support request, or no action. Review the fit with your clinician when relevant.
Prompts for this resource
- My chosen or fictional situation, and what I know about it:
- My response to the practice task above:
- What does engagement look like for each of you?
- An optional next step, support, adaptation, or reason to stop:
Conceptual background
What is EFT? — International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy
Background on the approach only. Original exercises and wording are by More Than Therapy with AI assistance; the source does not validate or endorse these materials.