Emotionally focused therapy / EFT-A12-2
De-escalation Review — Practice worksheet
Review a recent manageable conversation for slower pace, fewer assumptions, or a workable repair.
15 minutes · Worksheet · Adults; supported use as appropriate
Fictional example: Alex and Sam still disagree but return after a planned break.
Use an ordinary or fictional example, with a clinician when appropriate. Reduced escalation is meaningful even before deeper bonding work.
1. Choose a workable example
Use the fictional example below or an ordinary situation of your choosing. Keep identifying details out of shared copies.
2. Try the practice
Review a recent manageable conversation for slower pace, fewer assumptions, or a workable repair.
3. Compare possibilities
Generate at least two interpretations or options. Mark what you know, what you are guessing, and what remains outside your control.
4. Decide together
What changed in the process even though the issue remains? Choose one small action, a support request, or no action. Review the fit with your clinician when relevant.
Prompts for this resource
- My chosen or fictional situation, and what I know about it:
- My response to the practice task above:
- What changed in the process even though the issue remains?
- An optional next step, support, adaptation, or reason to stop:
Conceptual background
What is EFT? — International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy
Background on the approach only. Original exercises and wording are by More Than Therapy with AI assistance; the source does not validate or endorse these materials.