Emotionally focused therapy / EFT-A14-2
Repair after Missing a Bid — Practice worksheet
Draft a repair that names the missed bid, its impact, and an offered next step.
15 minutes · Worksheet · Adults; supported use as appropriate
Fictional example: Sam realizes a practical answer missed Alex's wish for comfort.
Use an ordinary or fictional example, with a clinician when appropriate. A missed moment can be acknowledged without demanding immediate forgiveness.
1. Choose a workable example
Use the fictional example below or an ordinary situation of your choosing. Keep identifying details out of shared copies.
2. Try the practice
Draft a repair that names the missed bid, its impact, and an offered next step.
3. Compare possibilities
Generate at least two interpretations or options. Mark what you know, what you are guessing, and what remains outside your control.
4. Decide together
What can you own without telling the other person how to feel? Choose one small action, a support request, or no action. Review the fit with your clinician when relevant.
Prompts for this resource
- My chosen or fictional situation, and what I know about it:
- My response to the practice task above:
- What can you own without telling the other person how to feel?
- An optional next step, support, adaptation, or reason to stop:
Conceptual background
What is EFT? — International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy
Background on the approach only. Original exercises and wording are by More Than Therapy with AI assistance; the source does not validate or endorse these materials.