Polarities on Paper — Clinician dialogue

Invite and obtain permission

Offer: "Would it be useful to explore polarities on paper using an ordinary or fictional example? We can adapt it, observe, or stop." Ask what the person wants from the conversation.

Elicit before teaching

Ask: "How does this show up, if at all, in your own words?" Offer this idea tentatively: Opposing tendencies can be explored without forcing a winner. Ask what fits and what does not.

Guide the task

Give two everyday preferences separate columns and write what each protects; look for a workable temporary arrangement. Ask for permission before giving an example. Use this fictional illustration if useful: One part of Rae wants to volunteer, while another wants rest.

Reflect and check accuracy

Reflect only what was offered: "I heard you describe ___. What did I miss?" Ask: What does each preference contribute? Avoid assigning motives or interpreting silence as agreement.

Respond to a mismatch

If the person rejects the frame, say: "Thank you for correcting it. What would be more useful?" Return to their language or choose a different approach.

Close with agency

Ask which observation, question, or support request the person wants to keep. Confirm a manageable ending and appropriate follow-up; do not turn a tentative possibility into a homework obligation.

Prompts for this resource

1. Readiness, permission, cultural context, and access needs to check:
2. What does each preference contribute?
3. What would tell me to adapt, stop, or seek supervision?