Communication & Boundaries / GRP103
Request or Demand
Distinguish a request that permits refusal from a demand with a hidden penalty.
20 minutes / 3-12 participants / Adults and teens 13+ with appropriate facilitation
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UNDERSTAND THE IDEA
Clarity, connection, and self-respect may need different choices.
A conversation can have several goals: making a request, maintaining a relationship, and protecting a value or boundary. These goals do not always align. A clear message improves understanding but cannot guarantee agreement or make an unsafe relationship safe.
Facilitation lens: Ask which goal matters most in the fictional situation. Include a fallback, a limit, and the power differences that affect the choices.
Explore the conceptual background · Broad background, not validation of this original exercise.
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Materials
Paper or a printable handout, Pens or an accessible writing alternative, Optional blank cards or simple drawing materials
Fictional example
A friend asks for a favor at short notice.
Invite and agree - 3 minutes
Name the purpose and the right to pass, observe, write, or use fiction. Agree that people share only their own experiences and do not promise absolute group confidentiality.
Introduce the example - 3 minutes
A friend asks for a favor at short notice. Ask what is known and what is still a guess.
Practice: Card sort - 7 minutes
Distinguish a request that permits refusal from a demand with a hidden penalty. Write short statements drawn from the example on cards. Sort using the distinctions in the task, then discuss cards that could fit more than one place.
Reflect together - 4 minutes
What happens if the answer is no? Ask what fit, what did not fit, and what would make the exercise more accessible. Do not interpret another person's response.
Choose a next step - 3 minutes
Invite one optional action, support request, or question to carry forward. Passing is a valid closing response. Confirm how to seek appropriate support outside the activity.
Adaptations and fit
Read the example aloud or offer written instructions. Allow typing, pointing, drawing, listening, and a support person where appropriate. Avoid mandatory movement, touch, or eye contact.
Practice with low-stakes examples. Consider power differences and safety; do not rehearse confronting an unsafe person.
Conceptual reading and review status
Original AI-assisted educational draft; independent clinical review pending. Sources inform general facilitation principles; they do not validate or endorse this original plan.