Infidelity recovery / INF-A02-1
My Choices Remain Mine — Concept brief
Understand the idea behind my choices remain mine and consider whether it fits your context.
8 minutes · Handout · Adults; supported use as appropriate
Fictional example: Lee feels pressure from others to make an immediate relationship choice.
Use an ordinary or fictional example, with a clinician when appropriate. Recovery does not require reconciliation, separation, or forgiveness on a deadline.
The idea
Recovery does not require reconciliation, separation, or forgiveness on a deadline.
An ordinary example
Lee feels pressure from others to make an immediate relationship choice.
What this can look like
List decisions that can wait, decisions needing practical attention, and support for making them voluntarily.
Check the fit
Which decision needs more time or independent support? You may disagree with the framing, use fiction, or decide that this approach is not useful today.
A useful distinction
Understanding relationship context does not transfer responsibility for deception to the hurt partner or require a particular relationship outcome.
Prompts for this resource
- What part of this idea makes sense to me?
- Which decision needs more time or independent support?
Conceptual background
Integrative Model of Affair Recovery — American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
Background on the approach only. Original exercises and wording are by More Than Therapy with AI assistance; the source does not validate or endorse these materials.