Infidelity recovery / INF-A03-5
Safety before Joint Work — Review journal
Review an attempt at safety before joint work and choose what to keep, change, or leave aside.
10 minutes · Journal prompts · Adults; supported use as appropriate
Fictional example: A fictional person fears punishment for asking questions about a relationship breach.
Use an ordinary or fictional example, with a clinician when appropriate. Joint repair depends on freedom from coercion, violence, and retaliation.
Before looking back
Choose one ordinary attempt or decide to review the fictional example instead. This journal has no scores, required disclosure, or expectation of progress.
Revisit the practice
Privately identify questions about safety and control to discuss with a clinician before any joint disclosure or vulnerability exercise.
Notice context and impact
Record what actually happened, including an unhelpful or neutral outcome. Note resources, power differences, accessibility, and changed conditions rather than attributing everything to personal effort.
Choose a revision
What assessment or individual support must come first? Keep the approach, change one part, ask for support, or set it aside. A mismatch is useful information.
Prompts for this resource
- What I tried, or what happened in the fictional example:
- What I noticed before, during, and after; what remains uncertain:
- What helped, did not help, or was outside my control:
- What assessment or individual support must come first? My optional adjustment or support request:
Conceptual background
Integrative Model of Affair Recovery — American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
Background on the approach only. Original exercises and wording are by More Than Therapy with AI assistance; the source does not validate or endorse these materials.