Infidelity recovery / INF-A04-2
Defining the Agreement Breach — Practice worksheet
Describe the agreement as each person understood it, what is known to have been breached, and what remains unclear.
15 minutes · Worksheet · Adults; supported use as appropriate
Fictional example: Lee and Quinn had different stated expectations about private contact with another person.
Use an ordinary or fictional example, with a clinician when appropriate. Betrayal concerns the actual relationship agreements rather than assumptions about one relationship model.
1. Choose a workable example
Use the fictional example below or an ordinary situation of your choosing. Keep identifying details out of shared copies.
2. Try the practice
Describe the agreement as each person understood it, what is known to have been breached, and what remains unclear.
3. Compare possibilities
Generate at least two interpretations or options. Mark what you know, what you are guessing, and what remains outside your control.
4. Decide together
Which agreements need clarification without excusing deception? Choose one small action, a support request, or no action. Review the fit with your clinician when relevant.
Prompts for this resource
- My chosen or fictional situation, and what I know about it:
- My response to the practice task above:
- Which agreements need clarification without excusing deception?
- An optional next step, support, adaptation, or reason to stop:
Conceptual background
Integrative Model of Affair Recovery — American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
Background on the approach only. Original exercises and wording are by More Than Therapy with AI assistance; the source does not validate or endorse these materials.