Infidelity recovery / INF-A09-1
Transparency with Consent — Concept brief
Understand the idea behind transparency with consent and consider whether it fits your context.
8 minutes · Handout · Adults; supported use as appropriate
Fictional example: Lee and Quinn consider how to discuss future contact without exchanging every password.
Use an ordinary or fictional example, with a clinician when appropriate. Transparency should be negotiated rather than imposed through coercive monitoring.
The idea
Transparency should be negotiated rather than imposed through coercive monitoring.
An ordinary example
Lee and Quinn consider how to discuss future contact without exchanging every password.
What this can look like
Compare information-sharing options, privacy needs, limits, and the right to seek independent guidance.
Check the fit
What would informed consent look like for this arrangement? You may disagree with the framing, use fiction, or decide that this approach is not useful today.
A useful distinction
Understanding relationship context does not transfer responsibility for deception to the hurt partner or require a particular relationship outcome.
Prompts for this resource
- What part of this idea makes sense to me?
- What would informed consent look like for this arrangement?
Conceptual background
Integrative Model of Affair Recovery — American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
Background on the approach only. Original exercises and wording are by More Than Therapy with AI assistance; the source does not validate or endorse these materials.