Infidelity recovery / INF-A10-5
Trust through Observable Actions — Review journal
Review an attempt at trust through observable actions and choose what to keep, change, or leave aside.
10 minutes · Journal prompts · Adults; supported use as appropriate
Fictional example: Quinn agrees to communicate a relevant plan change at an agreed time.
Use an ordinary or fictional example, with a clinician when appropriate. Trust cannot be demanded and may be influenced by consistent behavior over time.
Before looking back
Choose one ordinary attempt or decide to review the fictional example instead. This journal has no scores, required disclosure, or expectation of progress.
Revisit the practice
Identify one realistic commitment, how it can be observed without surveillance, and what happens if it is not kept.
Notice context and impact
Record what actually happened, including an unhelpful or neutral outcome. Note resources, power differences, accessibility, and changed conditions rather than attributing everything to personal effort.
Choose a revision
What action can be offered without claiming it guarantees trust? Keep the approach, change one part, ask for support, or set it aside. A mismatch is useful information.
Prompts for this resource
- What I tried, or what happened in the fictional example:
- What I noticed before, during, and after; what remains uncertain:
- What helped, did not help, or was outside my control:
- What action can be offered without claiming it guarantees trust? My optional adjustment or support request:
Conceptual background
Integrative Model of Affair Recovery — American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
Background on the approach only. Original exercises and wording are by More Than Therapy with AI assistance; the source does not validate or endorse these materials.