Infidelity recovery / INF-A14-2
Self-Blame and Responsibility — Practice worksheet
Separate relationship difficulties from the choices involved in breaking an agreement and note what remains uncertain.
15 minutes · Worksheet · Adults; supported use as appropriate
Fictional example: Lee wonders whether being busy caused Quinn's deception.
Use an ordinary or fictional example, with a clinician when appropriate. Responsibility for deceptive choices should not be shifted to the hurt partner.
1. Choose a workable example
Use the fictional example below or an ordinary situation of your choosing. Keep identifying details out of shared copies.
2. Try the practice
Separate relationship difficulties from the choices involved in breaking an agreement and note what remains uncertain.
3. Compare possibilities
Generate at least two interpretations or options. Mark what you know, what you are guessing, and what remains outside your control.
4. Decide together
What responsibility belongs to each person without assigning blame for another's choices? Choose one small action, a support request, or no action. Review the fit with your clinician when relevant.
Prompts for this resource
- My chosen or fictional situation, and what I know about it:
- My response to the practice task above:
- What responsibility belongs to each person without assigning blame for another's choices?
- An optional next step, support, adaptation, or reason to stop:
Conceptual background
Integrative Model of Affair Recovery — American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
Background on the approach only. Original exercises and wording are by More Than Therapy with AI assistance; the source does not validate or endorse these materials.