Infidelity recovery / INF-A19-1
Repair Review without a Scorecard — Concept brief
Understand the idea behind repair review without a scorecard and consider whether it fits your context.
8 minutes · Handout · Adults; supported use as appropriate
Fictional example: Quinn kept one commitment, while Lee still feels uncertain.
Use an ordinary or fictional example, with a clinician when appropriate. Review can examine actions and impact without demanding equal emotional progress.
The idea
Review can examine actions and impact without demanding equal emotional progress.
An ordinary example
Quinn kept one commitment, while Lee still feels uncertain.
What this can look like
Compare a recent agreement with what happened and identify what needs acknowledgment, revision, or independent support.
Check the fit
What can be recognized without treating uncertainty as failure? You may disagree with the framing, use fiction, or decide that this approach is not useful today.
A useful distinction
Understanding relationship context does not transfer responsibility for deception to the hurt partner or require a particular relationship outcome.
Prompts for this resource
- What part of this idea makes sense to me?
- What can be recognized without treating uncertainty as failure?
Conceptual background
Integrative Model of Affair Recovery — American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
Background on the approach only. Original exercises and wording are by More Than Therapy with AI assistance; the source does not validate or endorse these materials.