Infidelity recovery / INF-A19-5
Repair Review without a Scorecard — Review journal
Review an attempt at repair review without a scorecard and choose what to keep, change, or leave aside.
10 minutes · Journal prompts · Adults; supported use as appropriate
Fictional example: Quinn kept one commitment, while Lee still feels uncertain.
Use an ordinary or fictional example, with a clinician when appropriate. Review can examine actions and impact without demanding equal emotional progress.
Before looking back
Choose one ordinary attempt or decide to review the fictional example instead. This journal has no scores, required disclosure, or expectation of progress.
Revisit the practice
Compare a recent agreement with what happened and identify what needs acknowledgment, revision, or independent support.
Notice context and impact
Record what actually happened, including an unhelpful or neutral outcome. Note resources, power differences, accessibility, and changed conditions rather than attributing everything to personal effort.
Choose a revision
What can be recognized without treating uncertainty as failure? Keep the approach, change one part, ask for support, or set it aside. A mismatch is useful information.
Prompts for this resource
- What I tried, or what happened in the fictional example:
- What I noticed before, during, and after; what remains uncertain:
- What helped, did not help, or was outside my control:
- What can be recognized without treating uncertainty as failure? My optional adjustment or support request:
Conceptual background
Integrative Model of Affair Recovery — American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
Background on the approach only. Original exercises and wording are by More Than Therapy with AI assistance; the source does not validate or endorse these materials.