Values after Loss or Change — Clinician dialogue

Invite and obtain permission

Offer: "Would it be useful to explore values after loss or change using an ordinary or fictional example? We can adapt it, observe, or stop." Ask what the person wants from the conversation.

Elicit before teaching

Ask: "How does this show up, if at all, in your own words?" Offer this idea tentatively: A changed role may alter how a value is expressed without erasing it. Ask what fits and what does not.

Guide the task

Identify a value affected by a transition and brainstorm new accessible expressions of it. Ask for permission before giving an example. Use this fictional illustration if useful: Avery can no longer volunteer in the same role but still values community.

Reflect and check accuracy

Reflect only what was offered: "I heard you describe ___. What did I miss?" Ask: What expression fits your current life? Avoid assigning motives or interpreting silence as agreement.

Respond to a mismatch

If the person rejects the frame, say: "Thank you for correcting it. What would be more useful?" Return to their language or choose a different approach.

Close with agency

Ask which observation, question, or support request the person wants to keep. Confirm a manageable ending and appropriate follow-up; do not turn a tentative possibility into a homework obligation.

Prompts for this resource

1. Readiness, permission, cultural context, and access needs to check:
2. What expression fits your current life?
3. What would tell me to adapt, stop, or seek supervision?