Relationships · 20–30 MIN · ADULTS / FACILITATED GROUPS
Compare Transparency With Surveillance
Discuss two fictional approaches to rebuilding an agreement after a breach.
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UNDERSTAND
What is happening here?
Chosen transparency and imposed monitoring differ in consent, purpose, scope, and power. A conversation can examine what information is useful and what creates control or risk. This tool does not prescribe disclosure rules or endorse surveillance as a treatment for infidelity.
Conceptual background
University of Washington · DBT skills. This reference supports the broad concept; it does not validate or endorse this original exercise.
PRACTICE WITH PURPOSE
How to use it
- Read both options without assuming one is right for everyone.
- Compare immediate effects, later effects, and the supports each requires.
- Record a context-specific choice or a question to discuss before deciding.
Compare two options
Explore · Adjust · ReflectYour workspace
Use a fictional or manageable example. Responses stay in this tab and are not submitted or automatically saved. Export and print include what you enter. You may observe, adapt, or pass.
MAKE IT USEFUL
Notice. Discuss. Take one thing.
For thoughtful facilitation
Open with the concept, demonstrate one fictional example, allow individual exploration or paired discussion, and close with one optional takeaway. Ask what fits the participant’s culture, language, access needs, and present capacity. Invite observation instead of disclosure; do not interpret participation as a measure of motivation.
Fit and care: Do not use joint exercises where abuse, coercion, or retaliation makes participation unsafe. Qualified individual support may be needed.
Original AI-assisted educational activity; independent clinical review pending. This is not an assessment, a complete treatment protocol, or emergency care. No automated risk scoring or outcome claims are made.