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MODULE 10 / 24 · Relationships · 15–25 MINUTES

Self-Respect Effectiveness: FAST

Keep fairness, honesty, and personal values in a difficult interaction.

Try the worksheet

Understand the skill

FAST emphasizes being Fair, avoiding unnecessary Apologies, Sticking to values, and being Truthful. Appropriate apologies for harm remain useful; the aim is to stop apologizing for having legitimate needs or existing.

Practice step by step

  1. Consider both your needs and the other person's needs.
  2. Notice an urge to apologize for asking or having a boundary.
  3. Name a value you want your words and actions to reflect.
  4. Use an honest statement without exaggerating, minimizing, or inventing excuses.

TRY IT · SOLO OR WITH A GROUP

A practice activity

Boundary rewrite: compare an over-apologetic response, an attacking response, and a fair, truthful response to a fictional request you cannot meet.

Group option: Work from a fictional example for five minutes, rehearse or compare choices for five minutes, then discuss one useful adaptation. Pass, write, observe, or work alone.

Your practice worksheet

Writing is optional. Responses stay in this open tab and are not submitted or automatically saved. Closing or refreshing clears them. Avoid names or identifying details. Printing or downloading includes your words.

Use paper or discuss the prompts if you prefer.

Recovery connection

Decline a high-risk invitation honestly while avoiding self-stigma or an invented excuse. Choose how much personal information to share.

Facilitator notes

Make room for accountability and relational repair. Self-respect is not the same as refusing all compromise.

Adaptation and care: Consider power and retaliation risk. A brief, low-disclosure response may be the safest option.

Between-session practice: Choose one manageable situation to try this skill. Notice the context, what you did, and what helped or needs adjusting. An attempt counts as practice even when feelings do not change.

Background and sources

DBT skills concepts originate in Marsha M. Linehan's work. These are original More Than Therapy activities, not reproductions of official worksheets or endorsed materials.

References inform the skill framework; they do not validate these particular exercises. Life-structure modules are DBT-informed applications, not additional standard DBT core modules.