Recovery Identity & Self-Compassion / GRP711
Shame and Responsibility Separately — Shared Pattern Map
Distinguish owning an action from making a global judgment about worth.
25 minutes · 3–12 people · Adults with trained group facilitation
Facilitator PDF · Fillable participant PDF · Open activity / add to session
UNDERSTAND THE IDEA
Accountability can be specific without being shaming.
A person can acknowledge consequences and responsibility while rejecting a global label about their worth. More precise language can make repair and reconnection easier to discuss. Compassion is compatible with limits and changed behavior.
Facilitation lens: Translate a self-condemning statement into an event, impact, need, and next step. Do not require forgiveness or a positive identity statement.
Explore the conceptual background · Broad background, not validation of this original exercise.
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Fictional example
A member wants to repair a mistake without calling themselves hopeless.
Open with choice — 3 minutes
Explain the purpose, privacy limits, and the option to observe, use fiction, adapt, or pass. Check access needs and group readiness; do not promise absolute confidentiality.
Meet the fictional case — 4 minutes
A member wants to repair a mistake without calling themselves hopeless. Ask what is known, what is assumed, and what the person in the case wants.
Practice: Mapping — 11 minutes
Distinguish owning an action from making a global judgment about worth. Each person privately maps the fictional case. Offer optional contributions to a shared map, then compare where context, access, and support change the picture. Do not interpret another person's map.
Reflect and compare — 4 minutes
What can be acknowledged without erasing dignity? Ask what fits, what does not, and what external conditions or supports affect the options. No personal disclosure is required.
Close and integrate — 3 minutes
Invite an optional observation, support request, or small next step. Passing is welcome. Agree how to revisit questions and seek appropriate help outside the exercise.
Practice output
A map with at least two possible support or choice points.
Scope and adaptation
Use ordinary or fictional examples, not graphic substance-use stories or cue exposure. No competitive abstinence scoring, forced disclosure, or required pathway. These plans do not manage intoxication, overdose, withdrawal, or medication changes; follow individualized care and appropriate medical assessment.
Offer reading aloud, typing, drawing, pointing, or observation. Avoid mandatory movement, eye contact, touch, and body focus.
Original AI-assisted educational draft; independent clinical review pending.
Conceptual background
References inform broad principles and do not validate or endorse this original plan.