Recovery Relationships & Repair / GRP810
Declining without a Debate — Learning Review Circle
Practice a brief decline and an exit option for an ordinary social pressure.
20 minutes · 3–12 people · Adults with trained group facilitation
Facilitator PDF · Fillable participant PDF · Open activity / add to session
UNDERSTAND THE IDEA
Trust depends on patterns over time.
A repair conversation may identify impact, responsibility, and an observable next action. It cannot guarantee forgiveness or restore trust immediately. Recovery and relationship repair may move at different speeds, and boundaries remain valid.
Facilitation lens: Choose a low-stakes fictional example. Include follow-through and consent, and avoid joint repair exercises where coercion or retaliation may be present.
Explore the conceptual background · Broad background, not validation of this original exercise.
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Fictional example
A member is invited to a setting that does not fit current goals.
Open with choice — 3 minutes
Explain the purpose, privacy limits, and the option to observe, use fiction, adapt, or pass. Check access needs and group readiness; do not promise absolute confidentiality.
Meet the fictional case — 4 minutes
A member is invited to a setting that does not fit current goals. Ask what is known, what is assumed, and what the person in the case wants.
Practice: Guided discussion — 6 minutes
Practice a brief decline and an exit option for an ordinary social pressure. Imagine the fictional person tried one part of the task and found the result mixed. Offer quiet reflection before voluntary sharing. Compare what fit, what was unavailable, and what needs revision; no one must disclose a personal setback.
Reflect and compare — 4 minutes
What helps the limit stand without an argument? Ask what fits, what does not, and what external conditions or supports affect the options. No personal disclosure is required.
Close and integrate — 3 minutes
Invite an optional observation, support request, or small next step. Passing is welcome. Agree how to revisit questions and seek appropriate help outside the exercise.
Practice output
A learning summary with one thing to retain, revise, or discuss with qualified support.
Scope and adaptation
Use ordinary or fictional examples, not graphic substance-use stories or cue exposure. No competitive abstinence scoring, forced disclosure, or required pathway. These plans do not manage intoxication, overdose, withdrawal, or medication changes; follow individualized care and appropriate medical assessment. Joint exercises are unsuitable where coercion, violence, fear, or retaliation may be present; arrange private clinical assessment and appropriate support.
Offer reading aloud, typing, drawing, pointing, or observation. Avoid mandatory movement, eye contact, touch, and body focus.
Original AI-assisted educational draft; independent clinical review pending.
Conceptual background
References inform broad principles and do not validate or endorse this original plan.