Recovery Relationships & Repair / GRP816
Listening without Taking Over — Shared Pattern Map
Practice reflecting a concern and asking what kind of response is wanted.
25 minutes · 3–12 people · Adults with trained group facilitation
Facilitator PDF · Fillable participant PDF · Open activity / add to session
UNDERSTAND THE IDEA
Trust depends on patterns over time.
A repair conversation may identify impact, responsibility, and an observable next action. It cannot guarantee forgiveness or restore trust immediately. Recovery and relationship repair may move at different speeds, and boundaries remain valid.
Facilitation lens: Choose a low-stakes fictional example. Include follow-through and consent, and avoid joint repair exercises where coercion or retaliation may be present.
Explore the conceptual background · Broad background, not validation of this original exercise.
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Fictional example
A friend responds to every concern with a solution.
Open with choice — 3 minutes
Explain the purpose, privacy limits, and the option to observe, use fiction, adapt, or pass. Check access needs and group readiness; do not promise absolute confidentiality.
Meet the fictional case — 4 minutes
A friend responds to every concern with a solution. Ask what is known, what is assumed, and what the person in the case wants.
Practice: Mapping — 11 minutes
Practice reflecting a concern and asking what kind of response is wanted. Each person privately maps the fictional case. Offer optional contributions to a shared map, then compare where context, access, and support change the picture. Do not interpret another person's map.
Reflect and compare — 4 minutes
What would make room for the speaker's expertise? Ask what fits, what does not, and what external conditions or supports affect the options. No personal disclosure is required.
Close and integrate — 3 minutes
Invite an optional observation, support request, or small next step. Passing is welcome. Agree how to revisit questions and seek appropriate help outside the exercise.
Practice output
A map with at least two possible support or choice points.
Scope and adaptation
Use ordinary or fictional examples, not graphic substance-use stories or cue exposure. No competitive abstinence scoring, forced disclosure, or required pathway. These plans do not manage intoxication, overdose, withdrawal, or medication changes; follow individualized care and appropriate medical assessment. Joint exercises are unsuitable where coercion, violence, fear, or retaliation may be present; arrange private clinical assessment and appropriate support.
Offer reading aloud, typing, drawing, pointing, or observation. Avoid mandatory movement, eye contact, touch, and body focus.
Original AI-assisted educational draft; independent clinical review pending.
Conceptual background
References inform broad principles and do not validate or endorse this original plan.