More Than Therapy uses "I am because we are" as an invitation to consider connection. Ubuntu has Southern African roots and diverse interpretations; this pack draws on Desmond Tutu’s reflection on interdependence and dignity.
How to use this page
Choose whether this lens fits your own values and experience. You can use different words, discuss another tradition, or skip the framework and focus on one practical support need.
Connection can take different forms
Community might include chosen family, neighbors, a cultural group, a peer network, a faith community, or people who share an interest. It can also include spaces you are still looking for. You do not have to describe every relationship as supportive or feel grateful for harm.
Care includes receiving
You can ask for help without first earning it through giving. Contribution can be small, irregular, or unavailable during a hard period. A community connection should leave room for rest, privacy, access needs, and changing capacity.
Choice remains part of belonging
An invitation allows a no. You are not required to disclose, forgive, reconcile, volunteer, or return to an unsafe relationship. Use this pack to explore a connection that respects your dignity and the dignity of others, rather than to meet a standard of being a good community member.
Reflection prompts
Use these questions in conversation, on paper, or in the downloaded PDF. You may adapt or skip a prompt.
- A form of connection I value, or a condition I need to feel welcome