Control, intimidation, and abuse can restrict access to money, communication, movement, or care. Your options depend on circumstances. If writing or browsing could be monitored, leave this page and use a safer contact method. Seek emergency help for immediate danger when it is safe to do so.
How to use this page
Use only if safe. You may discuss these prompts verbally and keep no written record. Do not disclose plans where someone could monitor them.
Ask about confidential support
A specialist advocate can help explore options without requiring you to leave or confront someone. In the U.S., the National Domestic Violence Hotline offers support. Ask about privacy and reporting limits before providing information that could affect safety.
Keep decisions situation-specific
Consider needs such as children, disability support, pets, transport, documents, or medication access with a qualified advocate. This page does not provide a universal leaving plan; actions that seem protective may increase danger in some circumstances.
Reflection prompts
Use these questions in conversation, on paper, or in the downloaded PDF. You may adapt or skip a prompt.
- What kind of support would be useful to discuss privately with an advocate?
- What device, location, or contact method is safest for that conversation?
- What practical responsibilities or access needs must any option take into account?
- What confidentiality or safety question would you like answered before sharing more?